If you want to be grounded. Think like a tree. lol. I'm kidding. Well, maybe not completely kidding. Trees are magnificent. They're strong and rooted to say the least. Trees can grow over 100 ft tall on average! Trees provide needed shade on hot summer days and stay rooted during all seasons. They don't go anywhere, they adapt to their environment and they continue to grow. I'll say it again, TREES ARE MAGNIFICENT!  Believe it or not, we are or can be a lot like trees. It takes a lot of time and understanding to be rooted in who we are, and be grounded individuals. Just like trees, when we grow, our roots grow longer and stronger and we are able to withstand all seasons that life has to offer; and as we grow, we are able to see over everything! It's as amazing as it sounds. How do we become grounded? Grounded minded people?  Grounded minded people understand other people. In fact they learn how to understand ALL people. This takes years and years, of course. This is

I'm just going to say it now.  If you're in a relationship, just know that every other relationship is just like yours. Seriously. Things just happen at different times in your relationship than in others. So you may think you're alone during times of despair, but you're really not out of hope. You're really just experiencing things at different times in YOUR life.  I also promise you, most people are THE SAME. Maybe even worse, really. A lot of times people may skip around trying to find that somebody. Truth is, you will experience the SAME thing in another relationship, overtime! Everyone has the same type of basic needs and the biggest mistake when in a relationship is expecting the other person to make us happy. Relationships are really about MORE than that. Relationships are a lot of responsibility, it takes care, effort and a whole lot of forgiving to make a relationship work for the long run. Most people think that relationships shouldn't be work. Oh boy,

 Do you ever wonder if you care too much? Or maybe care too little?  The key in caring is to know when to care.  If you care too much, you'll hinder yourself from your own needs and maybe even growth. Caring too much leads to worry and unneccessary thinking. A complete waste of your time. If you care too little, you may miss out on some opportunities and growth in your life. You also may be dealing with some issues in your life that's caused you to not care anymore and so you may need to find a way to trust again or give things a chance and learn how to understand and squash these issues. It may sound far-fetched, but I promise, with time, issues can heal and fade away just like scars do. So finding that balance is key. Step #1: LISTEN Over the years I've learned how to slow down a lot. Slow down my thinking, slow down my words, and slow down my actions. Through much self control I've learned a lot because I started to understand that listening is more important. Listen

Okay, so I get enough interaction with the real world on one social media platform alone. It baffles me to find people believing in new social trends that raises a concern in my instincts. I mean, maybe I'm different. Okay so I am a lot different. I tend to notice more serious issues in matters that normal people don't. I've learned to accept that over the years. BUT how can people not see what is really happening here in the real world?  It seems as if we have forgotten a lot of things. To make the mistake in thinking we're being free spirited by outright disrespecting our own selves to the core. What's happened here? Thinking we have specific rights only to really denounce ourselves in showing the world what we really think of ourselves inside. Do we ever really think anymore? Or are we just going with the flow?  The world is constantly changing..it ebbs and flows. So should we ebb and flow too? Should we just "do" because it's what we're all doi

How many times have you heard people say well... what if it doesn't work out? What if I can't? How many times have you heard yourself say what if? The what ifs are usually loud within our mind...we don't normally say what if!? out loud...in fact there are many other ways to express the what ifs .  WHAT IFs may sound like this: I can't do it, it's too hard. I'm afraid it won't work out the way I want it to. You know it's good for you but you're too afraid to move forward. You don't want to hurt people's feelings because you're a people pleaser. You basically want control over the situation and it's causing you to stunt the potential growth in your life. What ifs show lack of positivity in your life. What ifs stunt your growth in life. What ifs can be unhealthy for your mind in the ways you're thinking and can take you into a downward spiral. What ifs can rob you of a bright future ahead.  So, today I'm talking about " W